Post #36 Behaviour (4) Ask the right questions, work out the message(s) and plan what to try.
Managing behaviour that feels challenging is not easy, particularly when a specific behaviour occurs frequently, has been going on for a long period of time and is intense. It is important to be aware at these times that a child or young person may be distressed and frustrated and so are you. This post focuses on ways to plan strategies for your son or daughter, based on your observations and using a problem-solving approach. When you are in the middle of a ‘storm’, both your child and you are not feeling good. This is not the time to sit down and try to problem-solve. Do what you need to do to keep everyone safe and to restore some semblance of calm. Don’t feel bad if that means leaving your son or daughter to watch favourite apps, YouTube films, play computer games etc. Take a few minutes for yourself too. Strategies to manage behaviours which have become challenging need some time to think, to figure out the message (intended or not) and to plan ways to support your son or daugh